Tuesday, January 31, 2006
I'm currently going through a breakup and I just don't know where to begin. Help!
This is a very difficult point in your situation: knowing where to begin. Start with what absolutely has to happen today. Don’t worry about the next week or even the next day.
For example, do you have any utility bills, insurance or bank accounts that need to be severed or closed? If so, this is an excellent place to start as it may take phone calls, letters to be written or even a personal appearance at say, a bank, to make it so. These issues take time to resolve, so it’s important to get the process going.
Once you determine what needs to be done immediately, make a short list, write it down. This allows you to make notes as to what the process is, and when it is completed.
This is not a time to make a general list of what needs to be done. If you attempt this, you’ll most likely be overwhelmed. Many small steps will take you to the same places as giant leaps.
Once this task is done, file it away so that you have a record of your accomplishment. In your emotional state, don’t trust your memory. I also recommend that you keep like tasks together. Don’t worry about separating your CD’s and books until you’ve completed the above list.
It’s easy to feel weighed down with everything you need to accomplish. Accept it, move on, and don’t second guess yourself.
I am happy to answer any of your questions about relationships, divorce and marriage.
sean@backpackingthroughdivorce.com
